When will she just grow up?! Putting emotional development in perspective

Parents often feel frustrated and even exasperated when their child with hearing loss behaves in an immature or inappropriate way. Most children easily figure out how to press their parents’ buttons and can just set us off sometimes. Parents have called me at such a point of stress that they are frantic, even hysterical about [...]

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Are Hearing Aids Best Not Seen and Just Used to Hear?

A friend called me from the middle of an appointment with his preschool-aged child to find out what type of hearing aid he should get for his newly-diagnosed child. I told him a behind-the-ear (BTE) hearing aid. He asked “But the little ones they have here are so small, you can barely see them?” I [...]

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Volunteering: A Win for Everyone

Gabriel’s teacher called his parents in for a meeting. Mr. Michaels was concerned that Gabriel was starting to view himself as a victim. He explained to Gabriel’s parents that recently, when challenges came up in class, Gabriel would sigh and mutter that “its too hard for a kid with hearing loss anyway, what is the [...]

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High Expectations and Realistic Situations: A New Motto

There is a very tender, delicate balancing act that parents of children with hearing loss find themselves in. It is really a fundamental issue that lies beneath the surface of so many of the other issues that come up parenting children with hearing loss – so lets address it head on: On the one hand [...]

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How am I supposed to know what is “normal” and when my child needs help?

The parents of a 11-year old boy realized that their son was having so much trouble with the other children at school. He was getting help from an itinerant teacher three times a week. She was making a big difference in his academic life, his grades were good and he was following what was going [...]

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“ I love you so much but you need to pick up your dirty clothes off the floor:” A challenge for 2011

This sentence is probably the parenting message that goes through my mind the most often! I am not sure why my children do not ever seem to pick up their dirty clothes without me nagging and I am not sure why it drives me so absolutely crazy. But they don’t and it does. While preparing [...]

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Why Fathers are So Important for Kids with Hearing Loss

There is a lot of research that demonstrates how the mother’s role is crucial in the development of children with hearing loss. This should not come as a big surprise – mothers are unarguably very important in the lives of ALL children, with hearing loss and without hearing loss. There is also a significant amount [...]

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No, Spanish is Not the Same as Greek: Responses to Readers

A reader wrote: “I do want to point out that there are many Spanish or other kind of family growing up in America and the Spanish/Mexican kids speak Spanish with their parents and family and have to go to school and use ENGLISH. Is that any different??” Yes, dear reader, I think it is.  As [...]

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Why don’t you want to go to the Halloween/Christmas/Hannuka/any other holiday/birthday/anniversary/any other kind of party – everyone else is going!?

Being a guest at a party is not supposed to be too stressful. Yes, some parties are obligations that you might not feel so enthusiastic about. Yes, you need to get dressed appropriately, you might need to bring a gift, and you need to arrive on time but not too early, but attending a party [...]

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Imagine Speaking Greek: Why I Don’t Think Sign Language Helps Most Children with Hearing Loss

Imagine: you and your spouse have given birth to the most beautiful baby girl. She is perfect, with 10 tiny fingers and 10 tiny toes and a little dimple on her chin – just like her dad. Everything went smoothly and as you prepare to leave the hospital and take your baby home, there is [...]

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